Lesson 3 of 3 · 8 min
The sandwich years
Funding your own later life while supporting the generation above you — what a first earner in a joint home is really carrying, and the quiet trade inside it.
A first earner in an Indian household is often funding three things at once: the household they came from, the household they are going to have, and the version of themselves who one day stops earning.
The name for the middle of that is the sandwich generation — holding up the generation above and the generation below, with your own later life funded out of whatever survives. In many families it is not a stage that arrives at forty. It arrives with the first salary, and nobody marks the date.
Here is the part that rarely gets said out loud, and it is arithmetic rather than a judgement. A rupee put towards your own later life at twenty-two has forty years in which to grow. The same rupee spent this month has none.
Either may be the right call — a parent's hospital bill is not a spreadsheet question — but the trade is real, and quiet, because nothing announces itself on the day it happens. The net worth course puts numbers on the exchange rate. This one only asks that you know an exchange rate exists.
| How it is given | What it does to your own plan | What it does to the expectation |
|---|---|---|
| A set amount, transferred at the start of each month before anything else | Predictable — everything else you plan is built on what remains | Sets a level everyone around you can plan around too |
| Whatever is asked for, whenever it is asked | Unpredictable — your own saving becomes the shock absorber | Sets no level, so each request starts again from zero |
| A large one-off, funded by borrowing | The repayment sits on your income for years after the occasion has ended | Usually invisible to everyone except the person repaying it |
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